Talking about your likes and dislikes in life is quite easy until it comes to talking about intimacy. Many of us find it hard to express what we want in intimacy because we don’t want to upset or offend the person we are with. We might be worried about being rejected and can find it difficult and awkward to talk about what we want.Despite it being difficult to talk about, it is very important to be able to express ourselves in intimacy. Talking about things before, during, or afterwards can greatly improve the experience and also help explore boundaries and consent.
Be patient and understanding when exploring and try not to make anyone feel inadequate.
Be positive in sharing instead – focus on how you do want to explore rather than creating a list of dont’s.
Be clear about what you want, so your partner does not have to second guess or try to read your mind
Support a partner and guide their hands on your body and show them how and where you want to be touched.
Agree to always hold space for the other to say no to anything you don’t feel comfortable with, without judgment
Be open to new things and don’t judge a partners interests or desires when they share – We are creative human beings.
Tell your partner if you’re hurting or in pain. Honour them and yourself by being honest.