Let me tell you something before we start. Something straight from my heart. Writing Unleashed and Liberated: My Life, Your Story broke me open in ways I never expected.
This wasn’t just a book. It was a release. A discovery. A revolution that whispered from the depths of my soul, a chance to break free from the shadows of my own truth.
For decades, I led a double life. By day, I was the respectable professional, a leader in secondary and further education, always the professional, always the career girl.
By night I had a hidden life. I was exploring the sacred, messy, powerful realms of kink, swinging, sexuality. These parts of me were wrapped in layers of shame, fear, guilt and conditioning.
I was living two lives. And both were killing me. Trying to live my truth whilst upholding the roles I played out in my personal and professional life.
Writing this book was never just about telling my story. It was about breaking the silence, my silence, and the silence of every person who has ever felt ashamed of being who they are. Every person who has been conditioned by society to believe sex, intimacy and pleasure are parts of us we have to hide, deny, or dilute.
Unleashed and Liberated: My Life, Your Story is not just about orgasms or sex (if only!) it’s about truth, identity, healing, trauma, pleasure, freedom, and the complex, glorious journey of what it means to come home to yourself and live the life you were born to live.
Writing this book took me years of picking it up and putting it down. Believing on one hand it was something that would help so many, and then also believing I was just a embarrassment. It nearly ripped me apart.
Telling the world about my secret life – the pain, the pleasure, the shadows, the longing, the confusion, the liberation was not easy. It was terrifying. There were moments I doubted if I could do it. Moments I questioned, “What if they judge me? What if they laugh? What if they don’t understand?”
For me being this visible, this naked on the page, meant confronting every voice that ever told me I was too much, too weird, too sexual, too emotional, too anything.
But I kept going, because deep down I knew the truth doesn’t just set us free….it liberates others too. This book isn’t about being shocking – it’s about being real.
It’s filled with stories from my life that many people would keep locked away forever. But I knew the very things I feared sharing the most were exactly what needed to be heard. I’ve walked the path of body shame, emotional abuse, sexual exploration, spiritual awakening, deep healing, and messy, and the beautiful.
I’ve sat with women and men who cried as they admitted they’d never felt safe in their own bodies. I’ve witnessed people collapse with emotion as they realise, they’d never been taught how to receive pleasure without guilt. I’ve walked people home to themselves- and in doing so, I had to walk myself home too.
I wrote Unleashed and Liberated: My Life, Your Story because I want to live in a world where we can talk about sex, trauma, intimacy, spirituality, and healing without flinching. I want people who have felt ashamed, broken, or ‘too different’ to know that they are not alone. I want people to read my story and know they are not alone. To know that healing is possible, that desire is not dirty and that liberation doesn’t come from perfection – it just comes from honesty.
This book is for every person who has ever been told to “calm down,” “tone it down,” or “be more appropriate.” It’s for those who’ve hidden their scars behind smiles. Who have faked pleasure to feel loved. Who have whispered their truth in the dark and longed to shout it in the light.
My hope is that Unleashed and Liberated: My Life, Your Story feels like a hand on your heart, a breath of fresh air, and a wake-up call to remember who the hell you are.
What readers have said:
“It is an easy-to-read book, entertaining and serious at the same time, playful but also deep from the heart. Reflections drive every reader to their own secret paths of their soul. People need to go through it and take the corresponding parts for their own exploration”.
“Well, I am not sure how come I have arrived at 90 without the experiences of Lori! What an interesting life she has had. I admire her ability to be able to write about her ‘times’. I think she would do well to add a series of short stories. I am sure there is much more to tell”
“What a great book. A very bold and honest account of, (I think,) an amazing life. Well written and articulate. An autobiography, entwined with a self-help aspect. I really enjoyed it so much I read it in a day. Fantastic. Thanks”
I want you to read it and feel less alone. I want you to feel braver. I want you to be
turned on by life itself. Not because it’s always easy, but because you deserve to feel alive, connected, and unashamed.
This is my life – but it’s your story too. Whether it’s my story, or the reflective questions within the book, this book is here to nudge you to reclaim your voice, your body, your desires, and your truth.
